Intimate massage is a great recipe to enhance bonding and relaxation with your partner. And erotic massage offers even more opportunities for intimacy. The good thing about erotic massage is that you don’t have to be a skilled masseur to deliver an amazing experience. It’s all about the connection, passion, and mood. Our experts have created a list of five erotic massage tips that are essential to make your massage perfect.
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Talk
Communication is key in any relationship, and massage is no exception. Before diving into any experiments, take the time to talk to your partner and get to know what their dream massage would look like. Awkward or uncomfortable moments would kill the mood. There are no set rules when it comes to intimacy and pleasure. Whether it’s a slow, soothing massage or a massage foreplay, always make sure it is comfortable for both. Check in about desires as well as any limits and no-go zones. There is no need to make it formal; you can figure out your partner's desires as you go, checking in with them on how it feels and letting them choose where and how they want to be touched. Allow your partner to guide the experience until you know their desires well.
- Set the Mood
A great erotic massage is all about the mood. Even if you are new to massage, setting the right surroundings will transform the experience into an unforgettable adventure and boost your sexuality. Dim or candle lighting, calming background music, and soothing fragrances are all mood boosters and absolute must-haves of a sensual massage. Check out spa music, and massage music playlists on Youtube or streaming platforms. Make sure you won’t get ad breaks in the middle. Transform your space into a sanctuary dedicated to relaxation and intimacy. -
Prepare for Smoothness
Now, onto the essential aspect of massage: the lubrication. The importance of a smooth and effortless glide cannot be overstated. But you must be careful with what oils or lubricants to use. Selecting the appropriate oils or lubricants depends on the type of massage you're aiming for.
Massage candles are becoming more popular for a good reason - while massage candles provide a smooth glide, the release of the fragrance helps to relax and unwind. Massage candles are not the same as traditional aroma candles - the wax used in massage candles is skin-safe and they burn at lower temperatures allowing it to be applied directly on the skin.
It’s easy to use massage candles. All you need to do is to light the candle up, and let it burn for about 15-20 minutes until a pool of melted wax forms on the surface. Blow out the flame, carefully pour the wax into your hand, and start gently massaging it into your partner’s skin. You can also pour the wax directly on your partner’s skin. Just be sure to communicate beforehand and test the temperature to ensure comfort.
Combining a sensual massage with the natural properties offered by massage candle essential oils helps to relieve stress, set a romantic mood, and elevate desires.
However, if your massage is going to involve any kind of penetration, you would want to choose a lubricant with no wax and essential oils as they may cause irritation and even yeast infection. While silicone-based lubricants offer the best glide, keep in mind they don’t work with any silicone products as they are damaging silicone material making it not safe to use. The best solution would be a water-based massage oil or lubricant with no fragrance - it provides great glide, it is safe to use on the skin, as well as on most latex and silicone condoms and sex toys.
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Use All Your Massage Tools
Don’t feel shy to go a little wild and use your imagination. Hands are not the only tools that you can use to give erotic massage. Explore using other parts of your body to give the massage - make good use of your oiled arms, chest, and stomach. This is the concept behind erotic massage.Vibrating sex toys are a great addition to the play too. Starting with the slowest speed and less erogenous zones, slowly increase the vibration and move to the more sensitive body parts as your partner desires. Make sure your sex toys are safe to use with the lubricant or massage wax you are using.
- Don’t Expect a Massage in Return
You might be expecting to get a massage in return after you finish. But your partner most likely is in heaven and too relaxed after getting a massage from you. Don’t worry, it doesn’t mean they don’t appreciate your massage. They might not be able to reciprocate immediately after you finish. Let yourself have the freedom to enjoy the moment of giving.
Yes, you are gonna need to do some preparation for the massage. But it is really worth it. Embrace the moment, concentrate on your sensations, and enjoy every touch and move that you are making - intimate massage is a pleasure for both.
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